A calm, kind and practical companion for anyone who looks after an older person at home.
Books about caregiving often begin with systems, forms and lists. This one begins at the kitchen table. Each chapter opens with a moment that many families will recognise, a daughter who finds letters lying unopened on her mother's table, a son who sees a bruise after a trip on the hallway rug, a mother who grows restless every evening and asks when they are going home, and then explains, step by step, what is happening and what helps.
The knowledge is the solid basic knowledge of nursing and care work: supporting what the person can still do, safe ways to help someone move, preventing falls and pressure sores, drinking enough, swallowing safely, a calm rhythm for the day. It is explained in plain words, with respect for the older person at every turn: the book speaks of choices, privacy and dignity as naturally as it speaks of handrails and night lights.
What stays with the reader is its kindness towards the carer. Rest is treated as part of good care, asking for help as a strong act, and the hard feelings of caring, tiredness, guilt and impatience, as something shared by many. The question at the end of every chapter makes it a good book to read together as a family.
What we like
- Fifteen chapters covering the whole of everyday care at home, from the first signs to the last stage of life
- Every chapter opens with a common situation and ends with a question to think about
- A whole chapter on the carer's own rest and well-being
- A short list of care words and where to turn for help at the end of the book
Recommended for
- Grown-up children, husbands and wives who care for someone at home
- Family members who live far away and want to help
- Older people who want to understand the care they may need, and anyone who expects to give care one day
When you are worried about a change in someone's health, talk to their doctor or nurse; for help with care, ask the official contact points where you live.